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Happiness is something you can model!


Ob-la-di, ob-la-da! 
Happiness is something you can model!


 

June 14, 2021        Ian Clarke



In the multitude of conversations I have with candidates with a work or life questions,

dilemmas in their careers, difficulties around absenteeism and illness or managers who struggle with keeping their team on track in times of Corona, it was great to talk to someone who said with a sparkle in their eyes: “Yes, I am always very happy!”

I decided not to ask the famous NLP (meta model) question “always?” I let her continue: “My basic feeling is always a number 8 or higher. Everything will be fine and I will make sure of that.”

I looked at her almost breathlessly, jumped from my chair, grabbed the MindSonar mug and poured her another cup of tea. "I'm going to take a test with you because so many people will want learn this from you!" She looked at me in surprise and continued: "I'm just naturally happy with the situation as it is and then I make something great out of it.”

You’ll understand that I was very curious about her profile . As context we chose: “Being especially happy”.

Here is, in broad strokes, what I found.

Her meta-criterion turned out to be “Fulfilment”. A word I don't see coming by that often as a meta criterion. Wouldn’t it be nice to have all those meta criteria from all MindSonars taken so far in one big word cloud (because you don’t have enough on your plate, Jaap).

The Sonar diagram contained Matching (8.8!), Present (7.4), Internal reference (7.4) and Towards (8.5).

Also notable were Kinesthetic (almost 7) and People (almost 5). And even scores across

maintenance, development and change and also balance in concept, structure, use.

Every time I Frankenstein this (‘Frankensteining’ = stepping into combinations of meta programs), I immediately feel good myself! I'm in the here-and-now, I feel

fulfilled, I’m doing it together with people, I know pretty much what I want and I have influence on that too. It doesn't have to happen very fast, I can reflect and work out some details and roadmaps.

Plus: I rarely look at what is wrong in my life.

Amazing what MindSonar can teach us. You could almost sing it out loud!

Happy ever after in the market place
Desmond lets the children lend a hand
Molly stays at home and does her pretty face
And in the evening she still sings it with the band

About the author 

Jantine Wijtsma

Jantine is a freelance HR-consultant from the Netherlands and has been a MindSonar Professional for many years. Organisations hire her on an interim basis to achieve tangible results based on the big picture: Jantine's broad view on the profession. She works in recruitment, training and development, sustainable work practices, team development, strategic personnel planning and coaching of dysfunctioning employees. In this wide range of HR activities, Jantine has done countless projects, many of them using MindSonar. Jantine's pet subject is contributing to good conversations in companies. She even developed a special training program for that.

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